When my son was 9-years old, he came home from school with a bit of unintended advice and wisdom.
At school he was asked to write down one goal for the week. His response was “STAY AWESOME.” Well, actually he originally wrote "Be Awesome," erased it and boldly scribed "Stay Awesome."
When I first read this, I laughed. Really? Stay Awesome. That’s his goal. Hmmm. Not sure that was what the teacher was going for, but the more I thought about it, I got excited about how life would shift by taking on staying awesome.
The core of every human being is amazing. Every one of us has an essence or quality about us that is unique and special. And as an Ontological Coach, this is what I work with clients on getting back to. Yours may be joy, play, love, peace or brilliance. But when conflict arises and you get scared, you may get angry, jealous, or have guilt.
But the good news is, you have a choice.
To “Stay Awesome,” consider making it a practice to “Notice the Awesome,” especially in yourself, your spouse, your child or even your boss or co-worker.
We can be the harshest critics to ourselves and to the people who are closest to us. Sometimes we even have a blind spot to all the good and fixate on the bad. If you notice yourself doing this, it may be time for acknowledgment.
Start by journaling the awesomeness in your life. What are the accomplishments made today by you, your family or at work? Tell those important people in your life what they mean to you. If you become a better support system to your partner, you’ll get a better support system in return.
Also, don’t forget to reach out. Just like the song in the Lego Movie “Everything is awesome, everything is cool when you’re part of a team.” Teamwork is awesome, right? But even when we have a team or a village, many of us choose to be separate and alone. We create stories. They’re too busy to help. No one cares.
But what is it like for you when someone vulnerably comes to you for help? For most, it’s a win-win. Empowering to be asked and for the one who did the asking, you may get some help out of it.
When overwhelm kicks in, take a moment to step back, break it up into more manageable pieces and take action. When I feel over committed, I started making it a practice to not talk about it or dwell on how much I have to do – I just do it.
Finally, don’t over-commit. It’s okay to say “no,” and sometimes people actually respect you more for it. It is better for your health, your spirit and the energy you give to the task if you take on the fewer things that you love, rather than many obligations.
Ready to stay awesome? Exercise that awesome muscle and reach out today for support.